Five Reasons Why Aakhiri Station is A MUST Watch for Every Woman
We see many women around who are suppressed by male dominance. It’s a common statement we hear in Urdu in our society, Shadi k shuru k saal mushkil hotey hain phir sab theek ho jaata hai. It is a lesson taught by most mothers of our patriarchal society. However, I strongly disagree with the statement.
There are some characteristics in men that never change – like his character of being a womanizer, gambler, alcoholic, or not willing to earn etc, these stay from the beginning to the end. A woman compromises, or to be clearer sacrifices many things in the starting years of marriage in hopes of sab theek ho jae ga. As years go by, the woman becomes more deeply stuck in her life and learn how to give up on everything. For such reasons, I feel Amna Mufti’s Akhiri Station should be watched by every woman.
1. Mei Hi Kyun
Whenever a woman goes through an unwanted situation in life, like having a short tempered husband, strict in-laws, lack of money, or any other problem, it is the most used phrase of women, “aakhir mei hu kyun”. It’s not THEM only. Most of the people living in this world are facing unwanted circumstances. All women shown in Akhiri Station have some sort of crisis, thereby it is normal to have unwanted situations in life because we do not and cannot live in utopia.
2. Learn to Move on
Women mostly hold an issue and keep on discussing it in their own hearts and with others as well. The problem however is genuine, but discussing the same problem with every second person will not solve it. Thereby, rather discussing it, and crying on it, try to resolve it. Allah SWT has blessed a person with wisdom. This wisdom should be used to solve the problems rather blowing it out of proportion.
3. Learn to say NO
Many women try to be champions. They just want to come up to every one’s expectations. They want to keep everyone happy. In return people around her totally forget that the woman gets tired, frustrated and exhausted. So it is absolutely human for one to say NO. When a woman feels she is tired or she is being used by others, she should say it. She doesn’t need to be a HERO all the time.
4. It is “marriage” with a Man not “adopting” a boy
We have heard many mother-in-laws saying, “ab tum hi smabhaalo isko”. The question is: why? – it is, after all, the mother’s responsibility to bring up a guy in best way. A mother makes his son married when he is eligible to support a family. He should be able to give security to the woman. A woman is not meant to bring up a man by earning or covering him or grooming him. It was a significant point raised in third episode of Aakhiri station in which the wife tried to help her psychologically unstable husband. It is mostly a fairy tale that Psycho husband gets treated with wife’s attention and love. In most cases the wife herself becomes a psychopath.
5. Every Situation is “Not” Compromise-able
I agree to the fact that Shadi Nibhana is a big deal. A woman has to make endless compromises. In fact man and woman both have to make compromises. When two people get married and start living together, it is not just two entities belonging to different families, in fact these are two different worlds that start living together. Both husband and wife like and dislike some of each other’s traits. No matter what we say no marriage can be successful without compromise. However some things or characteristics should not be compromised. Like a woman should say NO to a husband who is lose character, gambler, and alcoholic, habitual of beating his wife or a person who is not willing to work hard and earn bread for the family.
Kashf Foundation is playing a great role on grass root levels for the welfare of women. They are not helping them with material resources like finances, but also trying to change minds of our patriarchal society by collaborating with television productions. Initially Udari and now Akhiri Station. Such plays have very long lasting effects on people’s mind. I believe that these plays do not have a “feminist” approach, but a “humane” approach.